What is Acceptance?
Acceptance is Acknowledgement of what is.
Sometimes we become stuck with our issues through a lack of acceptance.
That might sound a bit odd, because why would we want to accept what we find unacceptable?
The answer to that question is a little bit startling.
Have you ever been in a disagreement with somebody where you found yourself having to make your case over and over because they simply refused to acknowledge that maybe you had a point - even if they didn't agree with you?
Sometimes we don't require agreement, we simply need acknowledgement - we need to be heard. Once we've been acknowledged we are then free to perhaps move our position to one of moderation rather than polarisation? This is how negotiations work. They fail, when the other point of view is denied.
Curiously, the same strategy applies when we are in disagreement with parts of ourselves.
Acceptance doesn't mean giving house room to a behaviour pattern which is debilitating or sabotaging, it's simply a way of accepting that there are two point of view here, not just one. There is a part which is digging it's heels in because it hasn't been heard, because it's being denied acceptance and in so doing it's making your life hell.
Acceptance is simply acknowledging what is so.
Once you acknowledge, accept and embrace the polar opposites within you, magic happens.
The impasse is broken and the two parts which were previously at loggerheads start to 'give' and move towards healing, finding a centre ground.
It can be quite astonishing how long term issues can be resolved through this more open minded approach.
So, by being willing to accept your faults, shortcomings or issues, you may be amazed how swiftly they can disappear.
Valerie Chiltonsmith © 2014
That might sound a bit odd, because why would we want to accept what we find unacceptable?
The answer to that question is a little bit startling.
Have you ever been in a disagreement with somebody where you found yourself having to make your case over and over because they simply refused to acknowledge that maybe you had a point - even if they didn't agree with you?
Sometimes we don't require agreement, we simply need acknowledgement - we need to be heard. Once we've been acknowledged we are then free to perhaps move our position to one of moderation rather than polarisation? This is how negotiations work. They fail, when the other point of view is denied.
Curiously, the same strategy applies when we are in disagreement with parts of ourselves.
Acceptance doesn't mean giving house room to a behaviour pattern which is debilitating or sabotaging, it's simply a way of accepting that there are two point of view here, not just one. There is a part which is digging it's heels in because it hasn't been heard, because it's being denied acceptance and in so doing it's making your life hell.
Acceptance is simply acknowledging what is so.
Once you acknowledge, accept and embrace the polar opposites within you, magic happens.
The impasse is broken and the two parts which were previously at loggerheads start to 'give' and move towards healing, finding a centre ground.
It can be quite astonishing how long term issues can be resolved through this more open minded approach.
So, by being willing to accept your faults, shortcomings or issues, you may be amazed how swiftly they can disappear.
Valerie Chiltonsmith © 2014
